• Peggy's Place

Peggy's Place: Great Things Ahead

Updated: Apr 9, 2019

Peggy Player

Beginning to put my own non-profit into place has been hard work, but it is probably also the first time I have taken control of my mother loss and acknowledged my mother’s name in almost forty years.

Because I have chosen to name it after my mother, I can say her name now, and I say it a lot. It’s an odd feeling, after both having it repressed and then continuing to perpetuate that “rule.” It’s been strange to start saying her name on a regular basis, but also very therapeutic.

Doing this has been on my “if you had the money and could do anything you wanted, what would you do?” list for years. My therapist (which came along almost forty years too late) finally gave me the push I needed to “just do it.” So, we’re doing it!

If you are an adult “motherless daughter” reading this, the first thing you should do- like as soon as you get finished reading this-is go buy a copy of “Motherless Daughters” by Hope Edeleman. It is life transforming and life saving and life affirming. Get some therapy for a bit if you need it. And, if you are in York County, SC, apply to be a mentor to a young girl who is now living through what you survived.

If you are a young woman trying to figure out who you are now that your mother is gone, we are here to help you. We can’t fix everything wrong in your life and we will never be able to bring your mother back, but we are here so that you have someone to talk to who has experienced that same loss and can maybe help you get through it better than I did.

If you are reading this, and you are not a motherless daughter, please consider supporting us financially. My letter from the IRS for our tax-exempt status is one day old. There is a lot of grant money available, and we are trying to get as much as we can, but we need financial help. It would also help if you would share the word with anyone who can serve or benefit from our organization.

We have the potential to help so many girls find out that they are not alone. That being the girl whose mother died is not all that they are. To help them navigate and anticipate the milestones in life that they will go through without their mothers now.

I am overwhelmed by how much work there still remains to do. But I am so happy that this is coming together, and I couldn’t be happier about the team I have helping. One is the woman who was my next door neighbor until a while after my mother died when we moved. One is someone I have known for close to twenty years. It turns out, that she had the same teacher I had when my mother died. (Who I live next door to now.) One is my sister. And, we’re all motherless daughters. And I didn’t know that about them. They have so willingly jumped in and are committed to this as well. It’s always such a weight off one’s shoulders when they realize they are not alone.

Stay tuned. We have great things ahead.